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This Is What Normal Is


Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about dads who are involved in raising their kids.  It seems to be a topic that I am talking more and more about too.  I have even been talking about it with co-workers and they think it is pretty neat the things that I do with my son.

They seem shocked that I sit down and play Candy Land with him or that I build the most massive set of train tracks with him to play with his Thomas the Tank Engines. They drop their jaws when they learn that I read with him and my wife each and every night before going to bed.  They are mesmerized by the fact that I am a daddy blogger and that I am taking an active role in raising him.

Normal - The Rookie Dad

This is normal for me though.

As I was talking with one of my co-workers and I spoke to her about my blog that I write, she asked me what I thought about the picture of the dad who was multi-tasking with their infant in a sling and he was doing his little girls hair.  I told her, that it is normal for a dad to do that sort of thing and I have no idea why it went viral.  After a few short seconds she agreed with me.  She understood immediately where I was coming from.

I will admit that the picture of the dad doing his daughter’s hair while his youngest is in a carrier is cute.  Why it made a big deal is beyond me.  There are plenty of other dads out there doing the exact same thing that are NOT getting the recognition.  I bet you, there is a dad who has already taken a picture like that and posted on the internet without it going viral.   It is normal for dads to be involved and taking an active part in their families.

When you think about it, by me saying that everything I do is for my family, is not very different then what dads did 75 years ago.  They went to work every day to provide for their families.  They went to fight for their countries so that their children could grow up in a better world than they themselves grew up in.  Even 75 years ago, family was first among dads but it was difficult to shine light on the subject.

In that 75 years though, think about what has made this world smaller, the Internet.  Now you are seeing pictures of dad nearly every day that are either playing with or taking care of their kids.  The normal hasn’t necessarily changed but been brought to light because of technology.  Commercial media outlets have exploited the upsurge in dads taking to the Internet to prove to the world that they are involved and begun to use it to keep people glued to the TV sets to see something “cute.”

You can say that I write this blog to gain recognition of involved fathers.  It isn’t about that though.  I write this blog because I want to leave something for my son.  I want him to see what kind of father I was so that later on in life, he can learn what not to do.  Of course I am joking, but I want him to realize the struggles that I had as a father and learn from what I did, so that he can be a better father than I was. I don’t write my blog for to get praise for the fact that I am involved as a father.

You see, this to me is normal to me.

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About The Rookie Dad

I am husband and father foremost. Secondly, I am a PBS producer and contribute to Traveling Dads and Dads Round Table.

Posted on February 11, 2014, in Fatherhood and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.

  1. We do have a “new normal” where dads are not just the providers, but also the nurturers, and that’s a societal shift many are still struggling with. I’m proud to be part of a group that is helping to raise awareness of this by documenting what is now normal for us.

  2. Reblogged this on the robot mommy and commented:
    Please read this piece about #SAHDs. It is not just normal but damn wonderful.

  3. I love that it’s normal and you can’t think of life any other way. I pray more dads are recognized for the role they play in the development of children, but for so many kids, this is NOT their normal. I am blessed to be married for 21 years to a man who thinks like you think and wouldn’t have it any other way. My heart goes out to the families where this isn’t the norm. #typeaparent

  4. I think that is fantastic. I am fortunate enough to also have a husband like you who is so active in raising our child. He puts her to baths her, read to her & puts her to bed most nights. She is a daddy’s girl all the way.

  5. Great to see fathers sharing their stories and the real reality about fatherhood. It took society 75 years to start seeing that, let hope the court system does decide to take another 75 since many fathers are deprived from their children base on the misleading stereotype from the past.

  6. Great Blog. I love getting involved with my kids. I call it daddy daycare. I get off early from my job, and I have the school pick up duty, I volunteer at their school, etc. When I say I volunteer, its at that point people are a little surprised that a Dad is doing that… I love it!

  7. Reblogged this on A Toolbox For Dad and commented:
    Thoughts on todays Modern Dad

  8. You may write your blog for your son, but it is important to show others Dads your example. I blog twice a week to encourage men to be better fathers. My son and daughters are already grown, but I worry about families these days!

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