Finally feeling connected to it all

When a husband (or boyfriend or sex buddy to be PC) learns that they are going to be a father, after the initial shock and “OH SHIT” we try to think about what we can do to help our significant other.  Most of the time they say that the best thing to do is to be there for them and support them through the process.  That’s all well and good but at some point in time the man is going to feel distanced or wondering what he can do during this process.   In fact, there are many times when the husband (or neanderthal if you wish HAHA) will feel neglected during it all.  But if we fight through it there will come a time when your wife, girlfriend, or who ever it is will need you.

Take today as an example.  We are working on getting our nursery painted.  A pregnant woman shouldn’t probably not help you paint because, one the fumes from the paint are probably not the best on her system. And two, because there involves alot of climbing, reaching, and kneeling which may upset the baby inside ( is that an old wives tail) or be uncomfortable for her.  This is one of the times that you can finally feel apart of the pregnancy.  That is saying that you aren’t in the process of talking to the strange object inside your partner’s belly or feeling your little kick-boxers kicks and punches.

But as we continue to prepare the nursery for our little ones arrival in late October or early November, I have noticed that I am doing many things around the house to get it ready.  Building the crib, and changing table, making the closet more functional for the baby clothing, baby proofing the house, and finally getting the cars ready to take the baby for a drive when you can’t get it to go to sleep. HAHA

Yes, it is difficult for us as men to feel apart of this because we aren’t feeling what is going on inside our significant others belly. But just remember that you will be doing things to help prepare for the baby’s arrival that she can’t and that (next to being there at the hospital during labor) is one of the best ways you can show that you truly are supporting her and to make you feel connected.

About The Rookie Dad

I am husband and father foremost. Secondly, I am a PBS producer and contribute to Traveling Dads and Dads Round Table.

Posted on July 29, 2010, in Nursery, Pregnancy and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. As a father with my second on the way I have a bit of advice for you. As soon as you hold your child they steal your heart. Trust me.
    Just do everything you can for their mom along the way and you’ll have PLENTY to do after birthday arrives. Good luck.


    • Hey thanks for the comment. There are still moments when my heart skips a beat when I feel the little guy kick. I can only imagine what it will be like when I hold my son for the first time.

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